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While much has changed in a year, much has remained the same. The everydayness of life has continued on – working hard, relaxing, a little playing, laughing. She, herself, would admit 2016 was a difficult year. “Yet, you cannot let these instances govern your life,” she would undoubtedly say.

It is exactly one year since my mom passed away. The last few days of her life were long and hard. Simply, you knew her time was very, very short. Only she knew when was when. Both Laurie and Andrea, after long hours at work, would stop by for nearly 30-45 minutes to visit with her and dad.  A little worry had crept into their voices. It was expected since we were talking family.

With her concerns increasing, Laurie consulted with her geriatrics professor from medical school. His advice was sound, “you’re doing well by keeping her comfortable much as possible.” Laurie wished she could do more. When her and Andrea asked if she was okay, mom would always reply, “Yes, I’m okay. I feel fine.” We were pretty sure she was trying to allay our worries and concerns.

In the year since, it has taken some time to adjust. We’ve had our moments when we said, “make a mental note and tell mom later.” Or, the girls saying, “we need to call grandma and tell her what happened.” Then, in a flash, we remember. Moreover, we are glad mom’s passing seems not to have affected dad a great deal. If it has, he’s not telling but we know he misses her much.

While our counting of days phase is largely behind us, mom would be very glad that we have remembered her. Hopefully, she won’t ask if we learned anything from the counting.

Love you, miss you.
xo

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Remembering

By Lauren Westin, MD

Sitting at my desk late last night, tying off the loose ends of the day’s work, it dawned on me it has been two years. It seems like yesterday when David called early that morning saying we needed to talk, and not over the phone. Yet, it does seem to have happened long ago.

In the hectic of Friday’s “everyday busy”, not a thought of mom came to mind – not even the anniversary of her passing. I know she would say it’s time to set it aside. “No more sadness.” Instead, concentrate on your family, concentrate on your patients. She would not expect any less. However, I felt bad at that moment last night. I should have remembered earlier, but I didn’t. Both Andrea and David said I shouldn’t beat myself up over this. They’re right, but I did.

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Tara called her grandpa early this morning and they chatted awhile before heading out to ride with Deborah and Elizabeth. Afterwards, I talked with dad. He said it was okay. Mom is imprinted on all of us, in our thoughts, our deeds and our words. Staying true to your values is remembering and honoring mom to the highest degree.

It was the reaffirmation I needed.

Love you, mom.

Laurie
xo

About the author

Lauren Westin is a practicing trauma surgeon with University of Colorado Health, and an Associate Professor of Medicine at the University of Colorado School of Medicine. She holds certifications in trauma surgery, trauma medicine and microsurgery.

 

WP: Marking Ten Years

In the early days, it was about having a personal website. For anyone, this was the opportunity to have their small corner on the internet. It required an investment of time to code the individual pages in addition to developing content. Yet, for every active personal website, there was a large number of dormant sites. Your contact with visitors was through a guestbook, or making direct contact by email for linking permission to another’s website. Permission to link was when politeness on the web mattered. Through this process, you were able to develop some very good friendships without ever meeting, or knowing what each other looked like.

Around 2003-04, a new method to develop a personal site was a weblog. It could be whatever you wanted it to be, from a daily journal to a writing platform to tell stories to a discussion forum. There was a good variety to the early blogs. While Yahoo had the corner on website development through GeoCities, Google had the corner through Blogger (aka BlogSpot). To give your site a measure of customization, you needed to know a little coding. Like the personal website a scant 2-3 years before, cats developed a strong foothold on the blogging frontier.

Among the early cat blogs were Timothy Dickens and William of Mass Destruction (WMD). Then, there was What A Good Cat and The Calico Girls – both with roots in the website world. Another early cat blogger was Laurence Simon with his “Is Full of Crap” blog and another through the Houston Chronicle newspaper website. The originator and manager of “Carnival of Cats“, Laurence quickly became known as the “King of Cat Blogs”. He wore his crown with his trademark irreverence.

While I studied the possibility of blogging throughout the fall of 2005, I hadn’t decided on which platform to use. Blogger was free, but I was already developing a dislike for Google. Typepad seemed nice, but you had to pay. Movable Type, you need to be self-hosted. My friend, John, at What A Good Cat was blogging on the new WordPress platform. Since he was already self-hosting his 3 Good Cats personal website, he had space to accommodate the WP software. John highly recommended WP. It was clean, intuitive, and open source. The paid part would be for self-hosting. If you wanted free-free, the dotcom side of WP would be the ticket.

Shortly after 2006 began, I signed up for a free WP account and reserved a blog name. In signing up, there was no guarantee of anything. WP wanted a broad cross-section of blogs. While the intent was to keep WP free-of-charge and ad-free, they were honest in saying there may be a day when free becomes paid and ads would appear. Several hours later, I received an email saying my sign-up was approved.

And, so, my first blog, Cat Crossings™, was born. It featured stories and photos of Dino, Pebbles and Egypt, along with the Musketeers (Midnight, Maxie and Tuxie). Our two regular features, Meezer Wednesday™ and Meezer Colors Day™, became staples in the cat blogging world. And, we had our share of accolades – WP Blog of the Day in 2006 and WP Featured Cat Blog (2006-08).

In 2007, the number of cat blogs grew exponentially. When one could read everything in the cat blogosphere in less than an hour in 2006, it was no longer the case. With so many, you had to cut down your reading list to a manageable size. In writing blog posts, you had to write for quality. After awhile, I slowly reduced the number of blog postings. With Deborah and Elizabeth beginning to ride equestrian on a regular basis, things were reprioritized including Cat Crossings. Though some wondered why my blogging rate had fallen off, I mentioned family obligations were more important.

With the girls ready to embark on their riding season in Summer 2012, I wrote my first equestrian entry and published the first photo of the girls with their horses. An occasional reader had gotten into their mind that it was a stolen image. Forget the notion I have the one and only original print and negative. My reaction was more like, “Hell, shit, who do you think you are?” and said so in a toughly-worded email reply. At that moment, Cat Crossings became a private blog. After a few weeks being private, I decided to delete the blog. While it meant deleting six years of 700+ posts and 60,000+ page views, I was done.

It is said with every ending, there is always a new beginning. Five weeks later, this blog began. I knew my work was going to be a challenge with so many excellent photoblogs on WP, and across the internet. Much to my surprise, the first like came on the introductory post from Leanne Cole, the first comment, on the 7th post, from Jocelyne Deneau, and the first follower was Patrick Latter.

Through the past ten years, WP has changed. If it didn’t, it wouldn’t be the success it is today. There are pieces of the user interface I first encountered, but there are many features I would have assumed be given only to the paying customers. When I started in January 2006, there were no customizations. Five themes – WP Classic, Connections, Regulus, Kubrick and Toni. Regulus was the only theme in which the header image had a choice (skyline, full moon, and artistic swirl). The support forum was/is second to none. Back then, many users helped each other as we learned WP together. A couple are still present – Timethief and Raincoaster, helping steer a member in the proper direction.

Will there be another ten years with WP? I’ll answer that question in ten years.